Veiws on interracial dating
In the same way, we want to believe that because a person outside our community might sleep with us (and even marry and have children with us) it means that person couldn’t possibly be racist.We are trained, like everyone else, to believe that racists wear white sheets and brag about killing unarmed children, but that simply isn’t true.And in the words of Mama Toni Morrison, “Thin love ain’t love at all.” I absolutely stand with Mason’s demand that whites (and I’d add other people of color) stop loving us thinly.It is why, while I don’t object to interracial dating, I would require any non-Black person I date to be anti-racist, to do more than hint at not being racist or being “colorblind.” Author extraordinaire Marlon James does an excellent job of breaking down the difference between being non-racist and being anti-racist here; get into it.Of course, Black folks’ petition to take up space extends to the police who take oaths to serve and protect us, and the political leaders who are responsible for enacting legislation that will hold those who oppress and abuse us responsible, but our demands must also extend to those who claim to love us.This notion of loving Black people radically is not a new concept, and loving Black people radically means more than just sexing us, partnering with us, or even creating family structures with us.No Black person in this country, whether they be President of the United States, the homeless, or anyone in between, can live their lives believing in colorblindness.Therefore, any allusions to colorblindness from non-Black people is an exercise of a privilege that Black people can’t afford, and it’s bullsh*t.
Because we all know that silence often means complicity, and we out here trying to get all-the-way free.
Black people are standing up and demanding to be seen, and to matter, in ways I have read about in history books, but have never experienced in my lifetime.
Whether we are talking about #themovementforblacklives or #sayhername, as a community we are requiring that our full humanity not only be recognized, but that safe spaces be created for the expression of that full humanity—whether good, bad, or ugly.
And, while we’re at it, let’s recognize conversations about colorblindness as what they are—violent erasure.
Erasure of Black people’s lived experiences and our hopes for a better, brighter future.As for American-born Asians, 46 percent married someone from a different race in 2015, while 39 percent of American-born Hispanics tied the knot with a person of a different ethnicity in 2015.