Christian curriculum on dating
Even Paul managed to make it a focus when he talked about relationships. So why doesn't it ever come up when we talk about marriage with our students? " and at this point it's been damaged and lost it's beauty and shine and some petals have fallen off because of everyone touching it. " Or we have a really sticky piece of tape and we press it against someone's shoulder and take it off and go to someone else and press it against their shoulder and take it off and we say, "Every time, we lose our stickiness. Then crumple it up and ask people if they still want it.
We lose our ability to bond." We've thought of a thousand different ways to make Christians feel worthless about themselves when it comes to their sexual past.
And so he says - don't be unequally yoked with nonbelievers. Whoever seeks to keep their life will lose it and whoever loses their life will preserve it.
This definitely applies to our dating relationships. Giving our lives to Christ also includes our dating, our sex, our singleness, our marriage.
We need to teach our students that thoughtless dating is not God honoring.
So many times I've met Christian teens who are dating someone they know they would never marry.
We're not here to talk about STDs and teen pregnancy. because we know that something more than the physical has taken place.
We're here to talk about how great, meaningful, loving, and godly sex can be - when done under the right conditions. When someone is raped they don't just experience physical pain. I asked one of my Juniors when they were planning on having sex and they said, "I'm not sure... probably when I'm 22." We got to have an awesome dialogue about God's expectations for his sex life.
Having a close partnership (dating relationship) with a nonbeliever doesn't make sense and isn't wise. Youth Pastors love to perpetuate it."Save yourself for your future spouse."- What? The godliness of singleness should always be a very important part of every relationship talk. Or we hold up a beautiful rose and encourage others to pass it around during the talk and at the end we say "where's that rose?
When Paul says that believers need to be equally yoked with others - he isn't talking exclusively about marriage. God bestows on you awesome mysterious power to become one with someone else. You're telling your Christian girls not to be unequally yoked but also telling them to hope for their future spouse but you know that there's not enough christian men for every christian woman in the church.
He's just talking about our close partnerships with anyone in our lives. You don't have to travel the world or pray really hard or scour the internet to find "the one" for you. So why aren't we talking more about celibacy and singleness? Christianity can be summed up in a continual, daily, surrendering to God.
Talk about the dangers of lust (checking each other out). Girl magazines have pages called "eye candy" with half naked guys.
You can't walk through a grocery store check out line or downs the aisles of a convenience store without some adult trying to convince you to lust. Talk about the dangers of pornography - not only to those who use it but also to those who work in the industry.Give students an awesome working definition of love so that they can know how to show love in a godly way.